John 3 Lesson

Being Born Again

What did Jesus mean when He made the following statement to Nicodemus?

  • “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” – John 3:3.

Nicodemus was confused by this statement, and asked Jesus:

  • “How can a man be born when he is old? He cannot enter a second time into his mother’s womb and be born, can he?” – John 3:4.

Jesus responded:

  • Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.  That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.  Do not be amazed that I said to you, ‘You must be born again.’ The wind blows where it wishes and you hear the sound of it, but do not know where it comes from and where it is going; so is everyone who is born of the Spirit.” – John 3:5-8.

Jesus’ answer to Nicodemus' question will be the foundation for today’s lesson, which will be divided into three parts:

  1. Being born of water,
  2. Being born of the Spirit,
  3. Being born again.


  Being born of water refers to obeying the Gospel in baptism.   Getting baptized is critical to our salvation for three reasons:

  1. When we repent and are baptized, our sins are forgivenActs 2:38 says, “Repent, and each of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins; and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.”
  2. When we obey the Gospel in baptism, we receive theHoly Spirit.   (Acts 2:38 again). 
  3. Baptism is required to enter the kingdom of God.   Jesus said, “Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit he cannot enter into the kingdom of God.” – John 3:5.


Being born of the Spirit refers to the way that we receive the Holy Spirit when we get baptized.   Jesus tells us in John 3:5that we cannot enter the kingdom of God unless we are born of the Spirit.   Therefore, baptism is necessary for salvation.

The Holy Spirit was sent from heaven to help us navigate through the temptations and obstacles that we face on earth.  At times in our lives, we will encounter questions or have to make a decision that we cannot answer from scripture alone.   It is in these times that the Holy Spirit can guide us.   If the Bible teaches us “What” we are to do, the Holy Spirit lets us feel it.   The two will always agree.   They will never contradict one another.   John wrote about this in his first epistle:

  • “By this, you know the Spirit of God: every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God; and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God; this is the spirit of the antichrist.” –  1 John 4:2 .

We need the help of the Holy Spirit to get to heaven, and that is why God sent us His Spirit.   Life will get difficult, and God will allow us to go through adversityalong the way.   God allows suffering in our lives for three reasons:

  1. To teach us,
  2. To discipline us,
  3. To reveal His supreme power.

Without the help of the Holy Spirit, it is impossible to enter the kingdom of God.


Jesus uses the phrase “born again” to describe the type of change that needs to take place in a Christian to enter the kingdom of God.   Just as a baby must leave the safety and comfort of their mother’s womb to develop, a Christian must also leave behind their previous lifestyle if they want to be saved.

To enter the Kingdom of God, we need to change the way we think, we need to change the way we act, and we need to change our priorities.  

Consider the following two scriptures:

  1. “Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth .” – Colossians 3:2,
  2. “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.” – Romans 12:2.


To enter the kingdom of God, we must be born of water and of the Spirit (John 3:5-8).   Jesus spoke these words to Nicodemus and to us to instruct us that we cannot get to heaven without being baptized and receiving the help of the Holy Spirit.

Being born again is a monumental change that is necessary for salvation.   Just as a baby leaves behind the familiarity of the womb in order to mature and grow, Christians need to leave behind their previous lives and walk in newness of life to enter the kingdom of God (Romans 6:4).     

We will end today’s lesson with the following quote from the Apostle Paul:

  • “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, this person is a new creation; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come.” – 2 Corinthians 5:17.


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